Hot Girl Summer Isn't Over: 7 Reasons Why You Should Skip That Second Date
To quote the loveable, sexy, and fierce Megan Thee Stallion, being a hot girl and living your best hot girl summer, means that you are being "unapologetically YOU, having fun, being confident, living YOUR truth,"
With this in mind, we have decided to give our fellow hot girls 7 reasons why you should skip that second date. Like Megan said, being a hot girl is all about catering to yourself, and what better way to cater to yourself (or at least the romantic part of yourself) than to eliminate the continuation of what was already a bad first date.
Reason #1: You're not attracted to them:
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We've all been there before. You doll yourself up in preparation for your date with a new potential suitor; your heart is racing, your smile is from ear to ear, and you're constantly fixing that one stray curl that won't stay in place. You've had great conversations on the phone, and on paper, they seem like the ideal match. But, then, well, you see them in person and it just doesn't click. There's no sparks, your pounding heart has suddenly mellowed, and you find yourself eyeing the waiter instead of your date. The first date, should mainly be based on chemistry (which is one of the building blocks for a healthy relationship). And if there's none there, then the likelihood for that chemistry building over time, is probably slim to none.
Reason #2: They remind you of your ex
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There's a reason that an ex, is an ex. If your date for the evening in anyway reminds you of a previous partner, then you probably should hit the road. While some similarities are unavoidable and irrelevant (i.e. both your date and your previous partner root for the same baseball team), others are red flags (i.e. both your date and your previous partner have a similar dating/relationship philosophy, or they both did that thing where they criticize you for how you chew, or they even compare in that aloofness that made you feel insecure and confused).
Reason #3: They never reached out after the date
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Okay, so let's entertain the scenario that the first date went really well. All the boxes were checked, the giggles were there, and you sucked in a deep breath when their hand brushed your thigh. But, for whatever the reason, they never reached out after the date; no text, no facetime, no call, no dm, heck, an email would be great at this point. And, maybe you decided that they don't have to reach out to you first, you'll contact them. But, they didn't respond to that either, and if they did respond, then it wasn't in a timely manner. If they're not reaching out to you, then it's probably for a reason. As a hot girl, who is determined to live her best hot girl summer, I implore you to not waste your time on someone who can't even be bothered to contact you.
Reason #4: The Ex Talk
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Maybe it was only once, or maybe you (or they) talked about them throughout the entire date. Whatever the capacity, let's just agree that discussing an old fling is a red flag. Now, there are different contexts in which talking about a past partner isn't reason to raise the alarm (i.e. you asked them why they're still single, or about their previous dating history, or maybe you guys got caught up on a funny story about bad date with someone else), but there are just as many, if not more reasons, why mentioning an ex with a new potential partner is a no-no. A first date is all about feeling out building blocks for a healthy relationship, and one of those building blocks cannot be an ex.
Reason #5: It's all about sex
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They're turning everything and anything, into a creepy and unwanted innuendo, and on top of that, they're being pretty touchy for a first date. Their hand is a little too low on your waist, and you notice that they keep staring at your lips when you sip your drink. Why do they keep making sex jokes and talking about how skilled they are in bed? And was it your imagination, or do they seem like they're undressing you with their eyes? Yes, we know that we've preached about the importance of sex and sexual attraction (a.k.a. chemistry), but the first date is generally not the place to lay all that out on the line. And hey, just to throw this out there, if their focus is on sex, then it most likely shows that their interest in you as a person, is minimal to none.
Reason #6: Everything is about them
You can't get a word in edgewise, and when you do get the chance to speak, they somehow bring the topic back to themselves. While it is encouraged to for you to listen to your suitors as they detail their interests and life experiences, it is equally as encouraged for them to listen and be engaged when you’re speaking about your respective interests and experiences.
Reason #7: You read this list
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Yup, after that date, you came right to this list, and hoped that I would be able to tell you whether or not your gut instinct about skipping that second date is right. The truth is, if you're using outside sources to help you determine whether or not you should continue to interact with a person, then you probably shouldn't. Trust yourself hot girl, live in your authenticity.
